#14 – Coaching Anna: when Self-Love Drops Into the Body

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 “It’s like I was in the middle of a room where there is a lot of doors, and I’m not able to open any doors. I want to open doors, but I’m stuck. I’m blocking myself because maybe I am scared of what I will find out.”

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EPISODE SUMMARY

This episode is for you. If you are struggling with self-love and allowing yourself to be yourself authentically. In this episode, I’m coaching Anna, who is sharing very authentically and vulnerably what she’s going through with self-love. To fully enjoy this episode, I encourage you to create your own human design chart. You can do it for free. It’s very simple. Type on Google, free human design chart.

 You need to have your birth date, your hour of birth, and your location of birth. Type it in. It will create your profile. If you don’t understand anything, that’s normal because you need to either read about it or receive a reading. Know that I do human design readings. You can always book a session with me. And that’s where I explain you the foundation of your design, helping you to understand how your energy is supposed to move, how you better take decisions, including your body, not just your mind. Because human design is based your body’s wisdom. In this session, you will discover Anna is a splenic projector, we say, and her profile is one, three. It doesn’t matter if you don’t understand what I’m saying right now because I explain what it means for her. If you have a profile 1. 3, you will recognize yourself in what I share for her. If you’re a projector as well, you will have some hints in your profile. Of course, these are just little elements, but I hope it invites you to go more into your human design. Then I also help her through energy work. You will see we do a visualization and releasing what needs to be released for her so that she’s able to love herself on a body level.

 I’ll let you uncover that. I don’t want to say more. Last but not least, we include also symbol and color work. If you are watching this episode via the video, whether it’s on Spotify, on YouTube, you can see that behind me there are drawings, or maybe you see some extracts on Instagram. And these drawings, a drawing, contains symbols and colors that help you shift your frequency and shift what needs to be shifted according to the challenge you are facing. And you will see that it then falls also in a natural way in how I support Anna. There are symbols and colors that come up and that she will need them to draw it so that she keeps on nurturing the work we’ve done in the session you are going to listen to. That gives you an idea why in the introduction of this podcast, I always say I’m a coach, a healing artist, and a surfer. Of course, surfing is more like my way of living and my connection to the ocean and how also I coach in the flow very intuitively. There you can hear a bit of what I do on the art part.

 Of course, on the coaching part. I’m very thankful for Anna for the work and the power of this session we did today. I hope you will gain insights for your own path because self-love is so key so that you feel better with yourself and have a beautiful relationship with yourself. Enjoy.

EPISODE TRANSCRIPT: FROM SEEKING LOVE FROM OTHERS TO NURTURING SELF-LOVE

 Gloria:
Hello, Anna, and welcome to the inner space. I’m super excited. As usual, with every coaching session, I’d like to start with what brings you to this session.

Anna:
Okay, so I’m very happy to be here. I guess the thing that makes me want to come for coaching with you is that I’m actually diving into my inner space and my own identity. I think I’m exploring who I am and how my world is changing as I go deeper into myself. I feel like I need some clues and maybe some guidance, because it’s quite an exciting quest that I’m on right now.

Gloria:
When you say you need to have some clues, can you tell me more? What are you looking for?

Anna:
Maybe I’m doing this quest objectively, or maybe I’m still wearing a mask while diving into my own depths. I don’t know if I’m really being authentic with myself.

Gloria:
What makes you doubt that you’re being authentic with yourself?

Anna:
It’s like I feel stuck sometimes—really stuck—and I don’t know why. Maybe I’m blocking myself, or maybe I’m not diving in the right way. I don’t even know if there’s a “right way” to dive into ourselves. Maybe because it’s new, I’m searching for excuses. I honestly don’t know.

Gloria:
I want to understand more. When you say you are stuck with yourself, where does that feeling come from? Can you describe a bit what it looks like?

Anna:
It’s like I’m in the middle of a room where there are a lot of doors, and I’m not able to open any of them. I want to open the doors, but I’m stuck. I think I’m blocking myself because maybe I’m scared of what I’ll find out.

Gloria:
Can you tell me more about what might be behind those doors?

Anna:
Honestly, I don’t know. I’m caught between excitement and fear, doubt—and all my past traumas are actually coming up. And my ego… I don’t know. Sometimes I talk with my ego, and I feel it saying, “Don’t go anywhere. You’re good where you are. Why are you searching and wasting energy going that far?” I know I may be my own barrier, but there is a block here. I honestly don’t know why.

Gloria:
What makes you think there is a block?

Anna:
Because part of me—my body—wants to go that far, but my mind tells me no. It’s like I have this discrepancy. The communication isn’t clear between my mind and my body. My body wants to go further, but my mind says, “Okay, stop.”

Gloria:
Can you tell me more about what your mind is saying in those moments? What’s the inner voice?

Anna:
“What’s the point of doing this? Why are you using so much energy for this? You don’t know where you’ll end up—just stay where you are.”

Gloria:
If I take that exact question—”Why are you doing this?”—and you answered that voice, what would you say the point is for you?

Anna:
Because I want to get to know myself better. It may sound a bit cliché, but I don’t really know myself. I’ve always felt like we are our own mystery.

Gloria:
You said, “I don’t know myself.” Just to start somewhere: if 100% means fully knowing yourself—although I know it’s hard, because we’re always uncovering and discovering—where would you place yourself right now, from 0 to 100?

Anna:
Right now, I would say 50–55.

Gloria:
Okay. What do you know about yourself?

Anna:
I’d start with my core values, maybe—those are actually very central to my life. My core values are more about… how can I say? It’s really about tolerance, transmission, and experience, because I’m a very experimental person. At the same time, as I told you, my mind is my own barrier. I always want to experiment, but something keeps pushing me back. So, experience, respect, transmission, and also humanity—because I come from a multicultural family. My mom is Vietnamese, and my father was Russian. So yeah, it’s a very interesting background.

Gloria:
I already had a quick look at your human design. You are a Splenic Projector, and your profile is 1/3. I just want to highlight the experimental aspect—it’s very aligned for you. The line 3 in your human design is really about people who need to experiment things to find their way. Experience, experimenting, experimental—these words you used are super important for you and very aligned with your design.

Anna:
Okay, I understand.

Gloria:
It’s interesting that you mentioned it on your own. Okay, now I want to know—what do you hope to gain from knowing yourself better?

Anna:
I would love, along with knowing myself, to also love myself. Maybe it’s a different sphere, but I feel like I’m not loving myself. I think I’m falling in love with myself at the moment. But I’d love to know what it really means to love myself—and to be loved by myself. It’s a feeling or emotion that I don’t really know in my life. Yeah… it’s love, I guess.

Gloria:
How do you feel when you say that? How does it feel in your body?

Anna:
My body and my heart are actually trembling—but in a good way. They feel open. I feel like a child when I talk to you about love. It’s weird.

Gloria:
Because I felt the emotion—that’s why I wanted to check how it felt for you. My intuition, when I was listening to you and the introduction you gave about wanting to develop self-knowledge, was: “We’re only on the surface.” That’s why I asked more questions. I felt there was something deeper. And now that you’re talking about self-love, I think—okay, is self-knowledge a means to something? From what you just shared—and we’ll dive deeper into it—is self-knowledge maybe a path to finally being able to love yourself?

Anna:
Yeah, you’re right. Indeed.

Gloria:
Does that feel… yes?

Anna
Actually, I started with knowledge—very mental—and now I actually want to discover love within myself.

Gloria
You’ll laugh, but I told you your profile is 1/3. Line 3 is about experimentation. Line 1 is very much about knowledge. So it’s this combination of: “I need to make experiences so that I learn more, so that I acquire knowledge.” There’s always a tension in the 1/3 profile between “I want to experiment, to try it out” and “I want to know more, I need to be more prepared.” It makes sense that you want that knowledge—again, that’s aligned with your design.

Anna
Wow, that’s surprising, Gloria. You remember I told you my mind wants something, but my body—which is the part actually experiencing life on Earth, if I can say—is always in struggle with it. I understand now.

Gloria
Wow. That’s already a quick answer to the struggle you’re facing. Take it as: “Okay, I’m giving myself the chance to experiment so that I can gain and deepen my knowledge.” Maybe at the beginning, you’re like, “I want to know more, I want to know more,” but always add the experimental side so you can find balance.

Also, I understand that your mind is very present. Again, in terms of human design—we probably won’t have time to go into everything—but you have two centers in the head: they’re called the Head and the Ajna. You can look them up later. It’s very simple. For anyone listening: type “centers human design” into Google and you’ll find where the Head is, where the Ajna is, and what each center represents—whether it’s communication, emotion, etc. Every center has a specific meaning.

For you, both of those centers are defined—they’re colored—which means you produce energy yourself in those areas: the Head and the Ajna. Everything in human design can be a quality, but if we don’t know how to manage it, it can also become a challenge.

Gloria
So your mind is very present. If I describe it now in terms of sensation: when you look at your design, you have energy in the Head and then energy down in the body, but they’re far apart. There’s no direct connection between the two—which isn’t a problem in itself, not really. But it’s interesting to know: it’s called a split in your energy. That means I can 100% hear the struggle—“I’m in my mind… and then I’m in my body… and how do I combine these two energies?”

Anna
Yes, exactly… Sometimes I’m tired of myself, honestly. I’m exhausted. I don’t know what to do. Whatever I do, there’s something on the other side balancing it from another point of view. It’s like I’m in the middle of two people—inside my own body.

Gloria
Yes, 100%. And I can give you two solutions for that. One: know that when we have a split in our energy—and you’re not alone, many people have splits of different kinds—other people around you can help. Even if you’re just sitting in a room or a coffee shop, not even speaking to anyone, other people’s energy can temporarily bridge those gaps in your design and help energy flow better. That can help ease the inner tension.

Of course, always check if you feel good in the environment—whether it’s a café, library, or somewhere else. Do you feel nourished there?

Anna
That’s really interesting, Gloria, because I tend to be very sensitive to my surroundings.
When the energy around me is negative, I become negative. When it’s excited and lively, I become excited. I’m very dependent—if I can say that—it’s strange. My environment really affects me.

Gloria
Yes. And this is taking us in a slightly different direction from your initial question. But I’m not sorry—it’s perfect. That’s how things unfold. We’re now moving more into reading your design.

To confirm your experience and phrase it differently: yes, because of other centers in your design—which are open (they’re white on your chart)—you need to be extra mindful of who you surround yourself with. You absorb other people’s emotions, needs, and drives. That can pull you off your own path. So regularly ask yourself: Is this environment right for me? What does my intuition say? Is this healthy for me? That word—healthy—can be your guide.

If I summarize: your environment determines whether you’re around the right people—people who help you make the right decisions or not. So especially with your design, choose your surroundings carefully. Make sure they are healthy for you.

Gloria
Now, the second thing—more generally about human design—that can help other people too:
You feel this tension between your mind and body. I see clearly how this plays out in your design. But others might relate to it differently. According to human design, the mind is not your decision-maker. It’s your assistant.

Imagine you have a feeling in your heart—like, “This is where I feel called.” Then your mind steps in as your assistant: “Okay, I need to book flights, contact people,” etc. The power of your mind is there to help others find solutions. But the guide is in your body.

So don’t see your mind as the one leading you somewhere. See it as the assistant. The initial impulse comes from your body. For you, as a Splenic Projector, that means your intuition is the guide. What is the immediate sense you have about something? That’s your intuitive answer. Are you connected to it? Do you know how it works in you?

Gloria
Because everyone’s intuition works differently. It doesn’t show up the same way for each person.

Anna
That’s such an interesting question. For me, intuition is key. I realized I had the answer—and my body had it too—but I used to ignore it. I always relied on my mind first. And afterwards I’d think, “Oh… but I knew it.”
So yes, I think I have intuition, but I haven’t been in touch with it. Now, I’m becoming more connected to my body, and since then, the relationship with my mind is less stressful. It’s still there—but it feels more peaceful, if I can say that.

Gloria
Exactly. I love that. And you phrased it naturally—intuition often shows up as “I knew it.” That’s your intuition speaking.
“Oh, why didn’t I listen to my intuition? I already knew.”
That’s a call to create more space to listen to your intuition. That’s the first step. Just noticing it. Later, you can decide whether or not to follow it. But for now—just become aware. That’s already a great start.

So if I reformulate what I just said, the steps are:
Every time you’re exposed to something—someone asks, “Do you want to do this? Come here?”—pause. What’s your body’s immediate response? Yes? No?
How does it show up—maybe tension, maybe relaxation?
Then, once you’ve identified it, then you decide whether to follow it or not. It might be a few seconds later, but that’s your moment to acknowledge: “Okay, now I know what my body’s wisdom is.”

Gloria
And now your mind can ask, “How can I help? How can I make this happen?”
Your mind becomes the assistant: “What do I need to do so this unfolds in the right way for me?”

Anna
Yes, I think I’ll try to do this in steps, as you suggested. Usually, I’d go straight to the mind: “Okay, what do I do?” I wasn’t asking for a solution—I was asking for a method.
But now I see. I’ll first listen to how my body responds, make the decision, and then ask my assistant—my mind.
It’s actually funny to see it that way—as an assistant. I like that. Thanks, Gloria.

Gloria
So now I’d like to go back—if that’s okay with you—to what you said about self-love.

Anna
Yes.

Gloria
I loved how you phrased it so naturally: “Oh, I feel like a child when I talk about self-love.”
And probably—that’s your inner child speaking in that moment.
How do you feel now?

Anna
It’s funny—once you said “child,” I travelled back in my past. I realized the only time I truly knew love was when I was a child. It was the love of my father.
That touches me deeply.
I think I have this childlike way of being because it reminds me of him.

Gloria
How does it feel when you say “the love of my father”? Can you describe it?

Anna
You mean—in my body? Or as an emotion?

Gloria
Whatever comes up, there is no right answer.

Anna
I feel supported. I feel my heart is soft. It’s not stressed or stressful. I feel free. It’s weird, but I feel free—because love, for me, I guess when I was a child, gave me a way to be myself. It’s strange, but maybe I’ve been wanting to feel that emotion again.
I feel supported. I feel free. I feel loved. I feel seen and recognized as a person. My body is so joyful… and yeah, it feels good.

Gloria
I feel it. That’s very beautiful.
What I hear is: to be yourself, to allow yourself to be your joyful self, you need to feel loved. That’s the validation—permission—to then be yourself.

Anna
Exactly. I think so too.

Gloria
Yeah. And check if what I say makes sense. Check with your intuition if that feels true. I don’t hold the truth—I’m just sharing what comes up as you talk.

Anna
But it does. My body responds—yes. I’m learning with you right now. Yeah.

Gloria
That’s exactly the way. Great.
And that’s a beautiful experience you had as a child—to receive that love.
So now the question is: how can you live that love and create it for yourself?

Anna
Yes, exactly.

Gloria
So that you give yourself permission to be yourself.

Anna
The word permission is very strong, but yes—it fits.
It feels like, for everything I’ve done, for the good things in my life, I always had to authorize myself. I had to give myself permission.
It’s like everything is something I’ve had to fight for or prove that I deserved at some point.
Permission and deserve are two words that really stay in my mind.

Gloria
Do you feel like you’ve had to prove that you’re lovable every time?

Anna
I did. I say that in the past—because now, it’s changing. But I felt it.
Out of fear of abandonment and rejection, I gave so much to people.
I don’t know if the word exists in English—sacrificial—but I gave a lot to others in order to be recognized, to be useful in their lives.
It was maybe my way to be seen as someone lovable.
Honestly, I wasn’t even sure it was love, but it was recognition I was looking for.

Gloria
And recognition—again, a little peek into human design—it’s a big word for Projectors.

Anna
Oh, really?

Gloria
Yes. Recognition is essential.
They need it—and the first person who must give it is themselves.
That’s very important for Projectors: Can I recognize myself?
Because once you do, you’ll move through life with much more peace. You’ll also handle others’ recognition more gracefully, because you’re already giving yourself the foundation:
“I see myself. I recognize my worth.”
That recognition must first come from you.

Anna
Maybe then I’ll have less frustration—I don’t know if frustration is the right word.
If I don’t receive recognition from others after giving love or support, and they don’t give back—consciously or not—I used to feel frustrated.

Gloria
100%.
And that’s exactly where something needs to shift.
If I rephrase the inner process that’s been happening for you, it’s this:
“To be myself, I need the love of others.”
And again, please stop me if this doesn’t sound right—your job is to rephrase it if needed.
But from what you shared, your ultimate goal is to be yourself—to be authentic, free.
And to get there, you’ve gone back to the sensation you felt with your father as a child.
As children, we are often much more free. I can feel what that meant to you.

So: “I need love. Then I’ll find a way to get love from others, because that’s the door to being myself.
And for that, I’m willing to give everything—probably too much—even beyond my limits.”
You came to this session saying you’ve had burnout before.
So yes, you’ve been going beyond what’s healthy for you, because you’ve believed:
“Gloria, the key to myself is love from others.”

Anna
So I’m ready to do anything—which isn’t healthy. And it’s not sustainable.

Gloria
Exactly.
And then it’s like: “Oh no—I’ve given everything, and I didn’t even get recognition for it.”
And then the emotions rise.
But before I say more, when you see that pattern that’s been playing out in your life…
How would you like it to change?
Try to connect with your body—not just the mind that says, “I shouldn’t wait for others’ recognition.”
The mind will say a lot of things.
For now, connect to your feet, to your chair, your breath.
Take a few seconds to feel your body.
Because to get a response from the body, we must be present in it.
We’ve been talking a lot—so take a moment to breathe.
And if the response is already there, don’t hold it back.

Anna
The response is already there.
When you rephrased all my old mechanisms, my body reacted—especially in my tummy.
It felt a bit… what’s the word in English?

Gloria
Contracting?

Anna
Yes—contracting. Exactly.
But then my body said, “Hey, it’s okay.”
It moved to my heart, and it was like: “It’s within you.”
Now, I’m saying to my mind:
“I don’t need external permission—external people or validation—to define who I am or whether I can love myself.”
I realize now that I have all the answers within me.
And I have to be more gentle with myself.
Because I had this pattern, like you said, where I gave everything. I was sacrificing myself—because I was never recognized, never good enough.
Not just by others—but for myself, too.
I think the rejection I felt from others confirmed my own belief that I wasn’t enough.

Actually, people mirrored what I believed about myself.
I don’t know if I’m being clear…

Gloria
That’s exactly how it works.

Anna
It’s like I was attracting—but also creating—the reality I thought I deserved.
But no.
And like I told you before, I’m falling in love with myself now.
Because my heart is more open.

Anna
I feel it. And it’s new for me. So yes, it’s scary—because the unknown is scary.

Gloria
I love that you mentioned your heart—and I want to follow the process that came up naturally for you.
If it feels okay, close your eyes. Let’s anchor this—not just in the mind, but in the body.
You can place your hand on your heart, take a deep breath, and just feel.
Your mind doesn’t have to do anything right now.
Just connect with your heart.
Earlier you said, “It’s okay. I’m opening my heart.”
Can you describe that sensation? Is it a color? A feeling?

Anna
It feels like orange or yellow… like a very soft breeze.
It’s warm—not cold—but fresh.
Fresh and hot at the same time.
It’s weird—like a hot and fresh breath.
It’s very quiet.
Oh my God… it’s peaceful.

Gloria
I feel the warmth.
That’s the word that came to me immediately.

Anna
Oh wow.
It’s beautiful.
I have some tears… because it feels so nice.

Gloria
Let it be.
Let everything come up that wants to come up.

Anna
I’m sorry if I cry.

Gloria
I’m sorry. No—please.

Anna
It’s just crazy that I can feel this within myself, without external factors.
It’s pretty new, like I’m reframing my own pattern. So it’s very disorienting—but it feels amazing.

Gloria
Exactly. And you already know where I’m guiding you—you’re already doing it.
That’s the way.
I just want you to stay a little longer with this sensation. We really want to anchor it, so you can return to it later on.

It can be as simple as: “When I place my hand on my heart, I connect to that feeling of freshness, peace, and silence.”
You can breathe it in and out. With every breath, imagine the sensation expanding.
Maybe you felt it mostly in your chest—just let it grow, like a circle getting bigger and bigger.
Let it reach your throat, your belly, your hips, your arms, your legs.
I’ll let you do it at your own rhythm. Just let it expand and expand, until your whole body is immersed in a bath of that sensation you described earlier.

With each breath, let it flow through all your cells—maybe in that orange color you mentioned—forming a bubble around you, created by you.
You can relax into that sensation. There’s no longer a need to seek it outside. No pressure to create it. It’s already there.

Gloria
It’s inside of you.
Your body is here—and it can always provide it for you.
I can really feel that sense of release, of stress dissolving.
It’s like a warm, fresh, peaceful energy.
I don’t know if you can visualize this, but imagine it’s dissolving the stress.
And the stress isn’t bad—your body and mind were just trying to find a solution, because it is stressful when we’re seeking love outside ourselves.

Can you… and please tell me where you’re at—if you need anything—can you imagine this warm sensation embracing the stress, creating space within the tension?

Anna
Actually, now the stress feels softer.
A few seconds ago, it was more contracted and vivid, but now it’s flowing with the breeze and warmth I feel in my heart.
The stress is flowing with it.
It’s like they’re dancing together.

Gloria
Beautiful.

Anna
I don’t need to suppress the stress—but I can welcome it and move with it, if I can say that. I can invite it into the dance.

Gloria
If this stress—this sensation—could speak, what would it say?

Anna
It would say, “Doesn’t it feel good to go with the flow, instead of fighting it?”

Gloria
And what would you say to the stress—to reassure that part of you?

Anna
I’d say, “Thank you. Thank you for being here.”
Because as you said, it acts like a signal. It’s always been there for me.
I just need to calm down and have a conversation with the stress—not reject it like I used to.

Gloria
Yes. And how does it feel for the stress to be met with this warmth and love?

Anna
I’m using less energy now.
Inside, there’s more harmony—between the warmth, the love, and the stress.
There’s no more fight. Yes.

Gloria
What comes up for me is this:
Stress arises when you’re seeking love from the outside, and your whole system says, “My survival is at stake. What if I don’t receive love?”
Then the stress spreads through your body.
It’s, as you said, a signal—
“Hey! Right now you’re seeking something outside.”
And it becomes an invitation to breathe in, breathe out, place your hand on your heart, and return to what’s within you.
So the stress, as you said, begins to dance, feels reassured, and says,
“Okay, thank you for reminding me. I was searching outside. But now I’m returning inward—just by feeling, and doing exactly what we’re doing now: breathing, spreading the warmth, the freshness, the orange light.”

Anna
There is so much light.

Gloria
Just enjoy it. Take it in—completely. Let yourself fully feel these sensations.

Anna
It’s like… there’s the inner father, the inner mother, and the inner child.
It might sound strange—but it feels like I’m creating a kind of trinity within myself.
A family of love that nurtures my heart and spreads love inside me.
Maybe this is my way of connecting to my own love.

Gloria
That’s wonderful.
That’s exactly what we often explore when facing these challenges:
What comes from the father? From the mother? What has the child lived?
So take it all in—as you said, this trinity.
Is it like a triangle for you?

Anna
Yes, exactly.

Gloria
You can keep that symbol—the triangle.
I’d even suggest you draw it. Put it somewhere in your home where you can see it regularly.
If you want, add the orange around or inside it—just follow your intuition.
Create a small drawing that can support you.

Anna
Good idea, Gloria. Thank you.

Gloria
That way, you’ll also have a visual reminder that supports your energy.

Anna
Okay.

Gloria
Do you need a bit more time to stay in that space? What do you need right now?

Anna
It’s okay.
I feel more anchored. I feel more peaceful inside me.
And I’m really grateful for the stress—for being there for me.

Gloria
Now I want to ask:
When you’re in this sensation, how do you feel about being yourself?
Showing up as your joyful, free self?

Anna
Instinctively, it’s… “I don’t need to know. I just need to feel.”
That’s the sentence I have in my mind right now.
By feeling, I believe I am being myself—just by being in the moment.
It’s okay not to know. It’s okay to feel. And to simply be—right here, right now.

Gloria
How does that sound to you?

Anna
So liberating. And joyful, too.

Gloria
I see it again—this little child jumping and smiling in a kindergarten.
And I feel so many emotions rising.
Tears may be coming up now.
Because you’re releasing so much energy that was stuck—energy you were holding in, because of so many experiences… maybe even traumatic ones.

Anna
Exactly.

Gloria
And this child you describe…
There was so much standing between you—your adult self—and her.
And now, all of that is rising to the surface to be released.

Anna
Yes. I feel it.

Gloria
And we release emotion by feeling it.
So this may be the time to cry it out.
It’s like all those things you were always connected to—but unconsciously—are now coming to the surface.
Maybe this is the moment to release it all.
I can feel the contraction, the hardness of it all, dissolving.

Let it rise. Let all the grayness—or darkness, however you see it—come up.

Anna
More darkness, yes.

Gloria
Yes. And now, you can let it go.
And reconnect to that beautiful childlike energy.

Anna
Yes, Gloria.
It was like I was trying to shine in the darkness.
But now my inner child is telling me: “Now you can shine in the light. You don’t need to see the darkness anymore.”

Gloria
I’ve got chills as you say that.
That’s it.
I see it clearly—this image of a child holding a light in the dark, trying to keep the flame alive while surrounded by shadows.
And it’s scary—because if you light it up, you see all the darkness.
And you’re not even sure you want to fight that.

But now, it’s like you’ve cleared the darkness.
You’re in a better space.
There’s light around you—supporting and nurturing the light within you.

Anna
So true.
I’m not used to it—but I really like it.

Gloria
When you said that, I felt it was your inner child speaking: “Yes.”
And again—we’re moving a lot of energy right now.
So take a breath in… and out.
Feel both your feet on the ground.
Let your body do the work.

Anna
Yes, you’re right. I have to trust myself, trust my body, and stay connected with it.

Gloria
I’m here with you, so everything is fine.

Anna
Okay. I’m discovering this secure feeling within myself. I’m not feeling it fully yet, but I’m discovering the secure side of me. It’s so new.

Gloria
Yes. You said, “I’m discovering it.”
And from what I sense, everything is already there.
It’s like there’s a blanket over it—you’ve pulled part of the blanket back.
In the coming days and weeks, it’s about removing more of that blanket, because that sense of safety is already inside of you.

Anna
You think so?

Gloria
It’s not that I think—I sense it.
As I talk with you now, I feel this more anchored version of you inside.
It’s already there for you, and it’s almost like it’s been waiting for you.

Anna
Oh, wow.

Gloria
It’s the wiser, more grounded part of you.
And it’s okay if it’s still something you’re discovering. That’s normal.
You’re stepping into a completely new sensation.

Anna
Indeed. I didn’t expect that, Gloria.
We never know where this will take us—and honestly, that’s the beauty of it.

Gloria
Exactly.
Do you feel like you need anything else?

Anna
I think I’m okay for now. Thank you for being by my side.

Gloria
You’re very welcome. Truly.
Before we close this energy work, I want to make sure we anchor it.
Let’s use the breath to integrate all this energy.

You can trust your body. I know this work will continue to integrate in the coming hours and days.
Just take a deep breath in… and out.
Feel your two feet on the ground—we’re also here, on this Earth.
This bath of love that you just experienced is always available to you.
You can reactivate it by placing your hand on your chest, visualizing it, sensing it again.
You can even say “thank you” to your body, if that feels right—for what just happened, and for how it cooperated with you.

Anna
Thank you.
I want to hug my body.

Gloria
Yes.
When you’re ready, you can come back and open your eyes. Take your time.

Anna
Oh… yeah. Yes. Wow.

Gloria
If you have water, now would be a good time to drink a little.
You’re back, but I can still feel that the energy is moving around you.

Anna
Really?
I feel it.

Gloria
Are you okay?

Anna
I feel perfectly fine. Don’t worry about me.

Gloria
I know what I’m doing, and I’m with you.
I’m just really tuned into your energy, and I can still feel things shifting. That’s totally normal—we’ve moved a lot.
It will naturally integrate.
After our call, maybe open a window, breathe in some fresh air.
Take a short walk, even just a few minutes. Be gentle with yourself for the rest of the day.
Drink plenty of water.
And trust the process—it’s integrating beautifully.

Anna
Thank you, Gloria.
I will—and I am being gentle with myself and my body.

Gloria
To keep this work alive, every time you have the opportunity, reconnect with that sensation through your hand.
Draw the triangle. Use the orange color.
Follow your intuition.
Let that support your energy.

You’ve created this love for yourself—so allow it to help you be authentically you: the joyful, free Anna.

Anna
You’re right.
It’s not like I’m discovering a new version of me—it’s more like I’m peeling back the layers and reconnecting with the child who’s always been there.
It’s more of a reconnection than a discovery.

Gloria
Exactly—reconnection.
That sentence you just shared is such a beautiful answer to your initial question about self-knowledge.
Of course, you’ll keep discovering things about yourself—but that line you said earlier, “I don’t need to know. I just need to be in the moment.”

Anna
To feel. To be.

Gloria
Exactly.

Anna
Wow.
Yeah, it’s true.
I didn’t need to revisit all my past.
I just needed to be in the moment and with my body.
It’s crazy, because I thought I needed all that knowledge to make decisions, to feel secure.
But actually… wow—it’s already here.

Gloria
This work we’ve done—it’s on an energetic and somatic level.
We didn’t need to talk through everything. You’ve released what needed to be released.
We reconnected with that part of you.
Now it’s about nurturing that relationship with yourself.
Stay in touch with that joyful child you described.
She needs your attention. She needs your recognition.

Anna
It might sound strange, but it was like I became the mama and the daddy of my inner child.
What I didn’t have—I’m now creating.
This trinity I mentioned… it’s become my symbol of self-love.
And it’s just… wow.

Gloria
Exactly.
That’s exactly what you’re doing.
This triangle, this trinity, with warmth around it—that is what you’re creating.
You’re giving yourself what was missing.
Because now you’re an adult, and you’re able to do that.

Anna
It’s true. I am an adult.

Gloria
All of us still have child parts inside us.
They drive our behaviors until we consciously take care of them—help them grow—and give them what they needed.

Anna
Honestly, today I realized how my inner child might have been imprisoned—or trapped in a dark bubble—just waiting for me to finally see her… and embrace her.
I feel a bit guilty. But I guess… that’s part of the process.

Gloria
Every emotion that arises is okay.
If there’s guilt, it’s okay.
It’s just one part of you saying, “Oh… I didn’t take care of that part.”
But the truth is: you probably didn’t know how.

Anna
Yeah, it’s true.

Gloria
That child within you—the one who was surrounded by darkness—
That’s why I reminded you: you are an adult now.
Through the work we just did, you’re doing that self-healing and nurturing.
But back then, as a child, you simply didn’t know how. You were vulnerable.
That part of you was still inside.
You were just trying to find your way.
You can’t judge yourself for something you didn’t know how to handle.

That’s also why we’re having this session—because we all need support to create, to heal, to transform things we didn’t receive when we were children.

Anna
Yes.
I need to be gentle with myself.
You’re right.
I also need to change the way I speak to myself—fewer negative words, more gentle, soft ones.
And I think my inner child will be happy with that.

I don’t have children—but it feels like I do now.
And I’m practicing with my inner child.
And it’s… wow.
It’s very challenging.
I can’t imagine what it’s like to be a real parent.

Gloria
But you know—we all have a child inside us that needs nurturing.
It’s different when it’s an actual child—but the inner child also needs love and care.

Anna
You realize that, yes.

Gloria
Let me give you an image that might help with that judgmental part of you:
If, as a child, you never learned to swim, how could you expect your adult self to swim without struggle?
You simply never learned it.
So now you’re trying to find your way in the water.
You’re doing your best.
And until you take the time to relearn, you’ll do what you can.

Anna
Yeah… I did my best.

Gloria
Exactly.
Write that down if it helps.

Anna
I will.
“I did my best.”
I don’t need to punish myself for what I didn’t know.

Gloria
Every time something comes up—even if it’s guilt or self-judgment—go back to your body.
Place your hand on your heart.
Feel the warmth.
Reconnect to the joyful child inside you.
Let the body do the work—not just the mind.
Let your body bring you back to your frequency, your true energy.

Anna
My body is happy.
Wow—it feels so quiet and peaceful.
I’m discovering.

Gloria
Do you feel complete right now?
Do you need anything else?
Do you have a question?

Anna
I just feel.
I don’t need to explain.
I’m here—with you.
I am me.
And I feel love.
That’s the greatest gift I can give myself.
And I’m learning to receive gifts from myself, too.

Gloria
Exactly. Absolutely.

Anna
It’s all so new.
Merry Christmas to me.
And thank you, Gloria.
Honestly—thank you for your guidance, your presence.
You helped me travel deep inside myself.

Gloria
You are very welcome. We are done for today.

Anna
Last words—promise.
Thank you for helping me reconnect with my body.
I guess… to embody, in some way, the essence of my Projector profile—which is quite interesting, what you said.

Gloria
There’s a lot more inside.

Anna
I’m looking forward to diving into it.

Gloria
You are very welcome.
Thank you for trusting me.
Thank you for being so open and for joining the inner space.

Anna
With pleasure. Thank you so much.

EPISODE CONCLUSION: EVERYTHING CAN SHIFT WHEN WE INCLUDE THE BODY!

 I hope you enjoyed this episode—this coaching session with Anna.
It was very powerful. You can hear how quickly things can shift when we work on a body level, when we align with your design, when we are simply present and intuitively respond to what is needed.

It’s a very different approach than just talking things through.
And I guess you felt it.

In this episode, I want to highlight a few things—especially if you are struggling with self-love.
You can see how not loving yourself can become an obstacle to experiencing other things in your life.

For Anna, it was: “Oh, I don’t allow myself to be myself because I haven’t received the permission that says, ‘You are lovable.’”
And that’s huge—because when we don’t give ourselves permission to be who we are, it takes so much energy.
It doesn’t feel good in the body, and we are not able to create the life we want if we aren’t truly being ourselves.

So you see how one unresolved aspect—like self-love—can block other areas of your life.
And you saw that we didn’t work on self-love through the mind, but really through the body.

That shows you the power of why we need to work on multiple levels for real transformation to happen.
There’s no need to endlessly talk about everything or repeat the same stories over and over again—because that often just anchors those stories even deeper.

Instead, we need to allow ourselves to feel what’s present.
To feel what’s blocking us.
To release it.
So we can finally reconnect to our true self.

If you’d like to receive that kind of support, this session is a great illustration of how I work.
If you like that sense of freedom—of moving intuitively through what’s needed, from different perspectives—whether it’s your human design, your body’s sensations, or both…
That’s exactly what I do in sessions.
I tune into what’s happening inside of you so that I can guide you from within your own experience.
Sometimes I even feel things before my clients do, and I help them reconnect to those sensations.

That’s what makes transformation possible.

If this episode was the reminder you needed—to love yourself—then take it.
And I would love to hear what you’re taking away from this session.
It’s important to me—and to Anna.

If there’s something you want me to share with her, please take a moment to leave a comment on your favorite listening platform, rate the podcast, subscribe, or share it with someone who could use this medicine.

I’d be very thankful.

I look forward to having you with me in the next episode