Today, Audrey Bouquet gives us her vision of giftedness through the Gifted Interview. Thank you, Audrey! She is a vegetable farmer and lives in her little paradise in Estaires in the Hauts de France.
.IF I COULD CHOOSE, WOULD I STILL BE GIFTED?
It is difficult to answer this question because there are so many facets to being gifted, both positive and negative.
I would like to be gifted when I want to be (laughs).
.WHAT (MY OWN) GIFTEDNESS MEANS TO ME
To be gifted is to use a potential that is in me. I know that I can take on many projects and make it happen. I see the world differently, I live things intensely. It’s having the opportunity to go beyond preconceived ideas, to be able to break free from the norm.
I’m not always understood, I’m sometimes too fast and I skip steps. This creates problems, especially with the administration. It’s sometimes exhausting to be gifted in this world because there are many unnecessary steps I have to go through.
Sometimes knowing more quickly what needs to be done but not knowing how to explain it in words is frustrating. Yet my intuitions often prove to be correct.
Being gifted allows me to fully create an environment of my own image. I have the resource to always find solutions. Being atypical appeals to people and I try to use this appeal to get messages across. I define myself as a sower of seeds of consciousness 🙂
.IF I HAD TO CHOOSE AN IMAGE OR A KEYWORD THAT SUMS UP WHAT GIFTEDNESS MEANS
To be gifted is to have in front of you the field of the possible.
.HOW LONG HAVE I KNOWN ABOUT IT?
I learned it 4 years ago, the year I turned 40.
.WHAT PHASES HAVE I GONE THROUGH SINCE MY DISCOVERY?
This discovery allowed me to finally ask myself the right questions. I left my husband, work, and flat quickly to get out of a life that was far from suiting me. The many people I met (virtually and really) during the first year of the discovery made me move forward very quickly.
Today, I am more at peace with myself.
.HOW DO I EXPLAIN IT TO SOMEONE WHO HAS NEVER HEARD OF IT?
It’s never simple. I am always looking for the best possible words for the person in front of me. I’ll be pretty cash if I feel the person is most definitely Gifted even if they’ve never heard about it before.
In other circumstances, I say that I function differently from the majority of people.
In any case, I give examples of moments from my own life to try to explain in the simplest possible way.
I also offer references to books that can help to better understand.
.THE REMARK WHICH BLEW ME AWAY MOST WHEN I TALKED ABOUT IT
One of my friends smiled and said: “Well, yes, I knew it”.
Some people know this before you do.
.HOW IT CHANGED MY LIFE (TO KNOW IT)
I offer myself permission to be really me, even if I sometimes go outside the frame and have barriers: I can jump over them more and more easily;)
I now have a life that reflects who I am.
I’ve been in research mode for 40 years. I knew something was wrong and I attributed my gap with others as pathological. Knowledge makes unusual characteristics “normal”. Giftedness is not a disease and that changes everything!
From now on when someone tells me that I am weird, I thank them for the compliment.
.WHAT I HAVE ALLOWED MYSELF TO DO EVER SINCE
I dare to do. It’s not always easy. When I decided to embark on the Zatipik adventure (the company I created in October 2019), I knew that I would be able to create work the way I wanted to live it. I am no longer held back by people who saw me as a steamroller. I can offer a full range of products and services, without staying within an established framework. I can allow myself to be creative.
I can now also more easily say the things that are important to me. I allow myself to express my feelings with less fear of being considered enlightened.
I have more self-confidence.
.WHAT IT CREATES TO OTHERS WHEN I TALK ABOUT IT
In general, this leads to curiosity. People want to know more. It appeals to them.
Sometimes they are reassured, like: “Ah, that explains why she’s like that…”.
.WHAT IRRITATES ME WITH GIFTEDNESS
To be part of a minority. This creates tensions. In our society, we are forced to follow an established system. This system makes no sense to me and is not fast enough. Giftedness therefore often leads me to have to slow down and review my copy to get into a frame in the first place (because yes I get out of the frame once I get what I want).
Many gifted people also lock themselves into a self-pitying state of “being different”. I still hear too often that being gifted in this world is unbearable. But I think that this world is unbearable for many people, gifted or not, and that by having potential available, we can at least try to put all the chances on our side to improve our lives.
.WHAT I WOULD LIKE TO EMPHASIZE ABOUT GIFTEDNESS
That it’s just a way of looking at the world differently, more deeply. That being gifted allows me to find resources to create what I want.
.WHAT I PERSONALLY FIND TO BE THE MOST DIFFICULT
The hypersensitivity side and having friendly, loving relationships which are always complex.
.WHAT I PERSONALLY LOVE
I love being different!
.MY WELLBEING TOOL OR PRACTICE THAT HELPS ME MOST
EFT. I have done a training course on this subject and it helps me a lot in case of emotional upsurges. I use it very regularly.
And especially the environment I create. Being in close contact with nature, vegetation and fauna and therefore being anchored are essential to my well-being and my balance.
.A MISREPRESENTATION THAT I WANT TO CALL INTO QUESTION
A gifted person is a little genius with glasses.
.WHAT I WANT TO SAY TO GIFTED PEOPLE
Go for it! You hold all the cards!
.WHAT I WOULD RECOMMEND TO SOMEONE WHO IS WONDERING
To meet people like them. The mirror effect of relationships is super important in helping to understand oneself.
Read testimonials, books on the subject.
.THE MISTAKE NOT TO MAKE FOR A GIFTED PERSON
There are no mistakes, just experiences to live through.
.MY PROFESSIONAL ADVICE FOR GIFTED
Choose a career path that is in line with your values. Redefine your true needs and not those that others think are good for us.
Having a job that pays well, with great responsibilities, leading teams, is not in itself proof of success for everyone. All too often, children and young adults with good cognitive skills are oriented towards so-called “renowned” or “prestigious” studies and professions such as engineering, for example. However, I think that many gifted people miss out on their professional life. Many reconvert themselves later on and go into manual occupations, where they can fully develop their creativity.
.MY PERSONAL ADVICE FOR GIFTED
Allowing oneself to be oneself and freeing oneself from the gaze of others.
.A BOOK TO READ ON THE SUBJECT
When I changed my life, I gave myself a few months of travel in a motorhome through France during which I collected testimonies of gifted people.
“A la rencontre de mes semblables à rayures (“Meeting my striped peers”)” brings together the words of 38 gifted people.
.MY OPINION ABOUT THE IQ WAIS TEST
This test allows those who pass it to give the legitimacy to be gifted.
However, being and living it is more than just a number. We do not define ourselves by a place on the Gauss curve.
.IS IT A WASTE NOT TO KNOW THAT YOU ARE GIFTED?
Yes. The brain then remains in the research mode.
It is important to know who we are. Not knowing this is to miss out on your life.
.WHEN I MEET ANOTHER GIFTED PERSON, DO I RECOGNIZE HIM.HER? BY WHAT?
I feel it very quickly. His.her way of being in the world, of saying things, of seeing like me.
And other things that I can’t explain in words. It’s a story of feelings, intuition, vibrations…
.A WISH FOR THE FUTURE
That the difference is finally accepted at its fair value.
.A INTUITION ON THE SUBJECT
I believe that gifted people are indispensable leaders of this world. They see, and feel before others what will happen. They often have a realistic vision of the future.
.THE QUESTION THAT I WAS MISSING BUT THAT I WOULD LIKE TO ANSWER?
No missing questions. It is a very complete interview. Thank you!