#10 – Coaching Jade: How to birth your Soul’s mission when succeeding feels scarier than failing?

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”I don’t have to pretend to be anyone else to be successful or to have the life that I want. So that feels like a nice learning here that I’ve taken from this process as well as all of the other really lovely feelings that have come through as well.”

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EPISODE SUMMARY

This episode of the Inner Space is for you if you are about to birth a new project in your life and are facing fears—whether it’s fear of success, fear of failure, or other fears. You will hear how I am supporting Jade through—well, I was going to say a coaching session, but this is a very particular kind of coaching session. You will discover another part of my work, which is more the energetic work I do.

Jade is someone who is used to working on a mindset level, on an emotional level, on an energetical level, and on a spiritual level, which are also the four levels I work on. If you’ve listened to my first episode of The Inner Space, ”Is This For You? I talk about this more.” Jade was open to let me guide her and navigate with her challenges and her problems on a more energetic work. I’m very thankful for that because it means like opening yourself to another level.

When we want to birth something new, there are so many fears that come up. She talks about the fear of visibility, the fear of your own life changing drastically, because we are used to live in a certain way and when we imagine the shift happening in our life, we’re like, what if it’s worse than before, even though it’s success? What if I have less time for myself? What if I am losing myself in this new project because I’m obsessed by it?

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Gloria

Jade, could you share with us what brings you to this coaching session?

Jade

Yes, absolutely. I’m actually turning 30 very soon—in under three months. I am very much in a phase of what’s next for me and how I would like the next decade of my life to go.

I have been putting off, for a long time, stepping fully into maturing in my business and launching my dream, which is an online temple space devoted to a goddess that I have been working with since I was 22. We’ve been journeying very deeply together. She has said to me—and poked me—every year and said, Okay, this is the time. It’s ready. You can do this. And I’ve always gone, Not the time. I need more. I need more time.

But it feels like now I’m embracing that this is the time for me to step in and to birth and to mother this next phase of my business. It feels very deep because it’s following an ancient lineage of the temples that existed a long time ago and reawakening them into the modern world. It’s a big space for me to hold on an energetic level.

There are a lot of fears rising, like: Can I give this what it needs?

I will be the public face of a rebirthing of something that is much, much bigger than me. It’s not just me in my own business and earning money and things like that—which is beautiful, and I’m really grateful for that process—but it’s so sacred and spiritual and fundamental to who I am as a person.
It can be a little bit difficult sometimes to separate myself and this project. My fears are coming into the project. They’re there, but also my excitement, my hopes, and my dreams are there as well.

I’m on the precipice of launching. I’ve done all the work in the background. It’s now just clicking the button to say It’s here and saying to people, Come and look at it. But I’m having a lot of fears around actually going through the labor and the birthing pains of saying, I’ve gestated with this for many years now, and it’s been such a passion project of mine that now it’s going to be visibly seen by other people.
Of course, those fears are now arising for me. That’s where I’m at.

Gloria

Can you tell us more about the fears? What exactly is coming up for you?

Jade

I thought it was fear of failure, but actually, I think it’s the fear of the opposite. I think it’s the fear of succeeding. Because for me, if I put out a retreat and I say, I’d like eight people to journey with me on this retreat, I have to show up and do the retreat. I have to show up and be visibly seen in my fullness and my passion and my richness. Because it’s always been something that’s been for me and for me alone. To step out and to be fully visible and to say, “Yes, I would love to welcome you on this journey with me. Let’s create this temple. Let’s get this around the world so people can really see her.” God, it’s about me, but it’s also mainly about her. Holding that space—there’s some difficulty in that. It’s visibility, it’s success, it’s actually the fear that this might work. Because I’m quite used to failing. I’m quite used to self-sabotaging when I’m right at the edge and I know something can happen. I’m actually used to the failure. It’s not being afraid of that happening at all, because I’m used to that. I’m used to that grief.

Gloria

I’m used to that pain of failing. I am not used to the pain or the potential grief of it actually succeeding, because it’s never been something I’ve experienced before. It’s a fear of success, definitely.

I have two questions—well, at least one that arises. First, I just want to share, because we’ve done your Human Design profile and you are a 3/5. I don’t know if you know anything about it.

Jade

Very basic. Very basic.

Gloria

The Line 3 is really about trial and error. Exactly what you said is something a Line 3 would say, which is, “Sometimes I feel I fail a lot,” or “I’ve gathered so many experiences where I’m failing. Will I be able to succeed?” And having the faith that actually, it’s part of your design to fail, to learn, and to then succeed. Of course, some will say, “Yes, we all learn from trial and error,” but specifically for you, it’s part of your process. It’s going to be one of the primary processes. What you said makes a lot of sense. We want to go now to the next step, which is succeeding. As you said, your body is used to this feeling of failure. It almost feels safer—you know it, it’s familiar. Then, succeeding. I would like to dive more into that. What happens if you become fully visible? You are fully seen?

Jade

Oh, my goodness. It would be the end of a very long process that I’m quite used to. It is that feeling of—this process has been going on for so many years of me trying and then either not allowing myself to succeed, or maybe it not being the right time, or I will succeed, but maybe perhaps not in the way that I expected that I would. This is quite comforting to me because I always have this feeling of, “Oh, I can pick myself up and I can try again once I’ve had a long rest and I don’t have to think about it very much.” I get into a process almost like a train. It goes and it goes. I get really excited about the process of creating something, and then I will either not finish the process or it will come off the tracks somehow.

To actually reach a station and actually have some form of success, or at least measured success that doesn’t come from myself, is quite a scary place to be in because it’s always been mine and mine alone. To share it with other people feels really beautiful, but also very scary, because then it becomes not just about me anymore.

It becomes about other people. It becomes about the beautiful experiences that they have and how they’re going to take this. I can see it becoming not just about me. I see it becoming like a web. I get to a station and then other people start taking my work in different directions. I am so happy that might be a potential, but it is just getting myself to that station that has been tough. That process—it’s almost like I don’t really have the language to express how to get there, because it’s been a pipe dream, but it hasn’t been a practical experience for me to say, “I’m used to that. I know what I’m looking for.”
So it’s much easier for me to go, “Oh, I see that I can go down the track of ‘I’m going to fail,’” but I don’t know where this destination is going to go. So I automatically will go back into what I’m used to, which is the failing, because at least I know how to resource myself once I fail. I think that’s the thing—that I love having my spare time, I love having my free time, I enjoy resting.

It’s actually quite nourishing for me to fail, because then I give myself full permission to just rest and grieve and be with the process. Whereas the thought and feeling of being successful—and it building and building above and around me—how do I resource myself? I don’t know, because I haven’t been in that scenario. It feels almost like an impossible task, because there feels like a sense of having to be consistently on it, and not taking a rest, not taking a break. I don’t necessarily know if that’s true or not, but that’s what my fears tell me. It’s like, “That’s great, but once you get to the station, look at all of the other stations you then have to get to, and look how busy you’re going to be, and you’re not going to have enough time for yourself.”
Yes, it’s a lot of these limiting thoughts and beliefs, I think, around not having the time to be creative and the time to rest and be myself anymore if I become successful—like losing an element of myself in that success.

Gloria

You started to answer a question I had, which is, how do you imagine success to be? What impact do you imagine success having on your life? You said for now it’s like, “Okay, I don’t have as much control over my time anymore. I might be losing myself. I might not be resting.” Are there any other things attached to success—perceived—when you imagine success?

Jade

Yes. I’ve lived on the poverty line for quite a long time as well. This is something that I’ve also gotten used to—the feeling of not quite having enough money, so having to be quite frugal with myself. There have been times, aspects in my 20s, where I’ve managed to get a little bit further and have more money. That has sent me into quite a significant panic because I don’t know what to do with the extra money.

There is that success of, “Oh, okay, if I have a little pot of money for myself,” there’s that feeling in the back of my mind, “What do I do with it?” Because it’s not going to something that I’ve always known that it has to go to. There’s a lot of unknowns here. It’s actually easier, again monetarily, for me to sit in, “Oh, I don’t quite have enough this month. I have to cut back,” than me having a lot more potentially than I need and then feeling uncomfortable with the feeling of having more.

It’s almost less time and more money that’s the fear here—time is my absolute biggest and greatest resource for me, because it always has been, because I haven’t had that money to lean on and rely on. My time and my creativity are what’s gotten me through some really difficult times in my life.
The fear of losing that aspect, but having maybe money put in its place—and maybe it won’t even be put in its place. I might still have enough time to do everything I want to do. But the idea of losing that time to just sit in silence and do nothing for hours on end if I want to—it feels like something I don’t want to let go of. That busyness feels like an uncomfortable place to be in.

Obviously, that’s more of the shadowy sides of success. I also do feel like success would bring me a lot of really great things as well. I have a dream of traveling the world and investing in myself, donating to charities or investing in small businesses. Actually having the money to open a physical temple to this goddess one day is also a beautiful thought and aspect.

But it does require me getting out of my own way and my own thoughts a little to manifest it happening. I do see that in the long term, there are some beautiful things that I just physically would not be able to have right now, in the way that I live my life, because I don’t have that financial backing and aspect behind me to get me to the places I’d like to be further down the line.

Not being on the poverty line would be nice. It would be nice to have money to spend on myself and invest in my future and invest in my relationship. There are good things that I believe success will bring me as well.

Gloria

I’m curious—did you ask this goddess to guide you through the fears you are mentioning? How did she respond to that?

Jade

She has actually really helped me to become quite practical in how I do this, because a lot of the questions have always been, “How do I get there?” She has responded by saying, “I’m going to give you the ideas and the tools and the processes to help you, and I will help you to get through that resting and grieving period a lot quicker,” because I still feel that there’s an element of me that craves that rest and craves that time for myself.

But it’s not being absorbed in it and then pulled into all of those fears and then locking myself in it to the point where I start to feel very sad and I start to feel very dejected and hopeless. There’s a balance to be had, where I would like rest without a big grieving period attached to that rest. That’s really what she’s been helping me with—to still take parts, little points in my day where I can be with myself. But also, she’s drumming up this real feeling and sense of excitement and passion within me and creativity that I’d lost for a few years. It’s really nice to be in that space.

Jade

I think it’s just because we’re right on that edge to go, “Right, this isn’t just about me and you and relationship now. This is the world getting to see you—or at least in the way that I can show them.” Because at the end of the day, she’s a goddess. Everyone has a personal connection with her. It’s just the way that I’m showing and presenting her that is going to be seen, which is great. It’s good fun. I’ve loved the creative process. It’s now just like, “Okay, everyone else can see it as well.”

Gloria

There are a few things, a few ideas that come as I listen to you. One—only if you feel you are available for that now—would be to go into the sensations in your body related to all of that. For that, I’m going to close my eyes so that I can guide you through your body. You can leave yours open if you feel safer, or close them—whatever feels right. I’m going to guide you. Does that feel right for you first?

Jade

Absolutely, yes, it definitely does.

Gloria

Because we’ve been chatting a lot, and I want to go more into the sensations, because you are super aware of what’s going on. You have clarity around that because of all the work you’ve done on yourself. Just start by checking how you’re sitting, and you can just listen to me. Your brain can rest and simply focus its attention on my voice and your sensations.

To start, we just want to make sure you’re sitting properly. Maybe uncross your legs if they are crossed. Place your feet on the ground, feel the sensation of the ground supporting you, or of your chair. Just start connecting more to your body.
Maybe your body is already telling you how it feels, offering some sensations. Everything is welcome. Now, we don’t need to change anything. We just want to hear and listen to how your body is.

You may naturally begin to pay a bit more attention to your breath. You can follow your breath’s rhythm—maybe it deepens. Whatever feels right to you. There is nothing to do right now—just be with your body.
How are you feeling right now, Jade?

Jade

I can definitely feel a sense of fear in my throat and just at the top of my chest. But the rest of my body feels really grounded and ready. It’s this physical sensation of wanting to be pulled forward, but my throat isn’t quite there. The fear is definitely sitting and lying in my throat, and also right at the top of my chest.

Gloria

That makes a lot of sense because the throat is about your communication and expressing yourself.

Jade

Yes.

Gloria

Can you stay with the sensation in your throat and chest? Could you describe it a bit? What is it like—if it were a color, a shape, a texture?

Jade

Yeah, it’s a dark blue feeling, and it’s actually changing. It undulates between a foggy sensation—almost like smoke, so it’s not solid—to something very jagged and spiky. But it’s shifting between the two. It’s not quite settled in either form. It’s like I reach for it when it’s smoky, and then suddenly it’s sharp, saying, “No, I don’t want to be touched.”

Gloria

Yeah, I feel that. It’s moving a lot, and it’s quite unsettling, actually.

Jade

Yes, definitely.

Gloria

So right now, we just want to acknowledge that sensation. Thank it. Thank her for being present and allowing us to simply be with her.

Jade

Thank you for being as you are right now. There’s no pressure for you to change. We’re just witnessing.

Gloria

If this sensation had something to say, what would it be?

Jade

She’s actually saying that she is ready—in her own way—but she doesn’t want to change right now. She’s afraid of being forced to mask or pretend that she’s okay during the process. She craves honesty—that in this expression, she doesn’t want me to pretend to be anyone other than who I am and where I’m at right now.

That feels really good, actually, because I don’t want to step into what I think I should be, or who I should be as a priestess, to bring out this next phase of my life. So it feels like I can meet her where she’s at.
It feels like she wants a container to be present—because I’m ready to hold her, and she’s ready to hold me. It feels like we need to embrace each other exactly as we are, instead of holding each other back from moving forward.

Gloria

That’s very interesting. What came up is that she’s telling you, “I’m ready to move with you, if you accept me as I am and you stay true to who you are. But if you want me to change or go away so that you can move forward, I’ll resist.”

I actually love this conversation because that’s exactly how our sensations and emotions want to move with us. We can move with fear, we can move with doubt. They don’t have to go away in order for us to move. She’s already wise in what she’s telling you.

Jade

She’s been here for a very long time. I think she’s quite comfortable within me, and in a way, I’m quite comfortable with her. It’s about embracing and having compassion for one another, where we’re both at.
She sees that this is something I want, but she doesn’t want to lose sight of herself in helping me get there—and vice versa, the other way around.

Gloria

You used the word “compassion.” If compassion were a color, a shape, a texture, what would it be for you?

Jade

It’s like a light rosy pink, and it’s very much like a veil or a cloak. It’s velvet. It feels like laying that over her—saying, “You’re here, you’re protected”—giving her not just protection but also serenity.
Like when you place a velvet cloak on a queen—there’s this grounded sensation, like “I’m here, I’m present, this is who I am.” That feels very strong.

Gloria

I encourage you now to take a few seconds, maybe a minute—whatever you need—to just imagine you’re putting on that cloak. In your mind, feel how it wraps around your throat, your chest. Maybe it covers your whole upper body. See the color, and let it infuse the sensation—spreading compassion both to the sensation and to yourself. Let your breath accompany the moment.

Jade

Yeah, it feels very calm. She doesn’t feel like she’s shifting anymore.

Gloria

Oh, that’s interesting. So she’s relaxing a bit too?

Jade

Yeah, definitely. That’s good.

Gloria

The word that kept coming to me was “control.” Do you feel like there’s a sense of losing control with her? It now seems like she’s finally being seen.

Jade

Yeah, that feels really powerful. The color hasn’t changed, but there’s no more spikiness. She feels solid.

Gloria

What would you like to say to her? What do you sense she needs to hear?

Jade

I see her. I understand. I embrace her. I’m not trying to change her. I’m not angry or upset that she’s there—that the fear is there. I’m okay embracing that fear because it feels like part of the wholeness of this situation.

If there were no fear or trepidation, it wouldn’t feel like a full experience for us to embrace together. I’m just excited for both of us to give it a go—to learn a new skill: to sense the fear without locking it behind a closed door. To rest if we need to rest, but also to come out and be visible—because we want to be visible.

From her perspective, I think she wasn’t visible for a very long time. The fear, for her, is being seen. Now that I’ve seen her, it feels like she can be here, she can solidify—and that helps me be visible, too. It really feels like an inner-to-outer transformation.

Gloria

It’s like she needed you to see her first so she could integrate with you fully. Then she could feel safe being seen. She can’t be visible if you’re not there for her.
So just breathe in, breathe out at your own rhythm. See how your throat and chest feel now. Is there anything else you need—something you want to say to the sensation? Or maybe there’s another kind of support it needs?

Jade

Yes, I think the energy has moved a little lower into the heart space. There’s a tingling and opening sensation there. I’m fully present to the fact that there have been people—and even parts of myself—who haven’t accepted this part of me.
This very important part of me has been misunderstood. There’s been this questioning: “Why is this important to you?” And I haven’t always had the words to express it.

There’s been some mistreatment by people who didn’t understand, or didn’t agree that this is the right path for me—my life, my career, my way of earning money, my legacy, and my purpose.

Gloria

What did that experience—or those repeated experiences—create in you?

Jade

An anger. A feeling of needing to prove myself. But also a sadness. Not a fear of whether this path is right—it feels like I’ve always known it is. But sadness that I wasn’t able to express it in a way others could understand.
There’s an anger, almost a rebellious energy—“I’ll show you this is the right path for me.” But also sadness that the softer, gentler parts of me weren’t able to be seen or expressed.

This is my life, my body, my spiritual essence, my heart, my energy. And I don’t just want to be heard through communication—I want the soft and subtle energy of me to be seen, too.

Gloria

That’s big. Of course, we all long to be met at that soul level. It’s not just about a project not being understood. It’s: “Can you see and welcome my essence?” That’s what I sense is really present. That’s huge.
I have one question about that rebellious side. Do you want to keep her as she is? Because she can be useful. Or do you want to shift something about her?

Jade

I would absolutely love to keep her. I believe she’s a big part of my creativity, power, and passion for this work. But I also wouldn’t want her to be the only part that shows up.
She’s a great guardian, a protector of the portal or doorway. But I don’t want her to stand so much in front of the doorway that the softer essence gets overshadowed.
It feels like she wants to protect me—but she’s had to be a bodyguard for too long. Now the essence needs to express: “It’s okay. You can step aside just a bit.” She can also protect herself.

Gloria

If we turn to that more vulnerable, softer part—how would you describe her?
Can we pay full attention to her now? Can we make space for her?
Again, can you describe the sensation? What comes up around her presence?

Jade

Yeah. She’s a beautiful, really beautiful light green color. I almost imagine her as springtime—buds shooting through the grass, gentle daffodils or little flowers just popping up in between the blades. There’s this real sensation of growth and wonder in her. It’s like that scent in the air in spring when everything’s starting to grow. You smell the dew on the grass. You smell the flowers beginning to emerge. It’s that scent on the breeze, and it’s almost like that’s what she is. She’s that feeling of hope and growth after a really dense winter, when everything is silent, still. Then comes that sensation of, Oh, there’s actually something here. There’s some growth, some beauty to be rediscovered in nature. She feels very maiden, very free—really archetypally maiden, actually, if I think about it.

Gloria

It’s interesting. The color green suits you very well. I don’t know what your relationship with the color green is, but I was almost seeing a stone or an emerald—and also your name, Jade. There’s something in green that’s truly part of your energy, your essence. I would advise you, if you’re not doing it yet, to make space for that green color so that it’s really present in your environment too. It supports you in birthing this project.

Jade

I also want to name the Goddess I’m working with—Persephone. She is duality: spring and autumn. She is the maiden in spring, and she is the queen in autumn. She’s life and death in one. That’s why I’ve always connected to her deeply—because there’s an essence in me that holds hope, light, and life, but also embraces shadow, darkness, death, and rebirth. The life-death-rebirth cycle. It doesn’t surprise me at all that her inner essence and mine share similarities, because that’s why we connect so well.

Gloria

It’s so aligned with your design, again, because the Line 3 in your Human Design could also be named: death, rebirth, death, rebirth. It’s always that process. You have that within you too. Just going back to that softer part you described—you’ve made space for her. Does she need anything else? How do you feel her now, in your heart? You’ve made space for her.

Jade

She would actually like me to work a little more somatically and with my body during this process. There’s a lot of communication, a lot of mind-based activity involved in launching a business. But she would really love for us to connect with the softer aspects. She’s telling me to dance more. Since childhood, my path to freedom has always been through dance—I would dance for hours and hours. It’s how I help my mind process things. She’s saying, See this as a dance. This is my chance to really be with the music, to be with my business in a full 360-degree way—in mind, in body, in heart. She’s asking me to dance specifically with the intention of my business: to see what she is, what this temple is going to be, what her energy will be, so we can dance and weave together. Instead of feeling like I have to create her all on my own, there’s a real sense from the softer side that says, You’re forgetting that there’s another energy around you that can support you.
Yeah, that’s actually really beautiful. I’m really looking forward to doing that. It is. I know.

Gloria

I love this. It’s funny that I proposed you do more bodywork—she heard it exactly.

Jade

Yeah, definitely.

Gloria

It’s dancing. You can ask her—is dancing the right way to make space for the softer part? Ask yourself, How am I going to honor that part of my life from now on?

Jade

She’s saying dancing, but also being conscious about how I’m fueling my body with food—that’s really helpful and important right now. Just being really mindful about how I nourish my body in general. Also, she’s saying, Let’s get more grounded and soft. We can meditate together. But she’s really saying movement seems to be the main path—her essence is movement, growth, air. It’s like the energy of air. Really being with that element would be brilliant.

Gloria

I love this. If it feels right, thank her and check again if you need anything else. Take your time to honor that space and that conversation.

Jade

Yeah, I think it actually feels quite complete. There’s just a really nice sense of softening and presence right now.

Gloria

Great. To close the energetic space, we’ll focus again. First, take the time you need to thank all parts of your body—all the sensations—thank your body for how it’s communicated with you today. And beyond today, for how it’s supporting you during this intense period when your mind is so active. If you can, extend that feeling of gratitude to your entire body, to all your cells. Bring that beautiful energy back into your whole being—like an infinity symbol connecting your mind and body. That’s what you’ll need over the coming days, weeks, months, years—knowing that you are supported in this process by the Goddess, your body, your soul, and many other souls who will join you.

And now, to finish, just breathe in and out in your own rhythm—at least three deep breaths. Feel your body again: your feet on the ground, how you sit in your chair. With every breath, reconnect to the outside of your body, because we spent a lot of time inward. That could be through what you feel around you—the temperature, any sounds. And when you’re ready, open your eyes. Take a look around the room. What do you see? Notice the colors. Come back to the real space gently, because we went deep and far.

How are you feeling now?

Jade

Really at peace. There’s a nice tingly sensation of just being here—with all of this, everything we’ve spoken about, and with Persephone herself too. There’s this strong sense of We’ve got this. But also, in a way I hadn’t fully accepted before. I had this mindset that I had to do things in a certain way to mirror how others have done it. Now, I’m learning to be with all the aspects of how I want to do this—how I want to birth this temple. Also, birthing the next version of myself: the person who can hold this space, who can priestess in her own way, and spiritually be with how I want to live this next phase of my life.

I feel like this is a threshold moment, entering a new phase of my life—and it will reflect in my business. I don’t have to pretend to be anyone else to be successful or to live the life I want. That feels really good and really important—a deep learning from this process, along with all the other lovely feelings that have come through.

Gloria

This podcast is so much about exactly what you just said—letting go of I have to do this in a certain way, especially because this Goddess has chosen you, not someone else. It’s you, in your way, that is needed. That’s what the world needs.

Jade

Absolutely.

Gloria

It’s about letting yourself do it your way.

Jade

Absolutely. I’ve been through the imposter syndrome for years—saying, Why me? Please choose someone else. I can’t handle this. But now I’m like, Okay, I understand that you’ve chosen me to do this in a particular way. I’m really humbled and grateful for that connection and opportunity to do this as me. I feel much more at peace. I can’t really feel that fear anymore. I know it might rise up again, but I’m okay with that—we can go through this process together. Having fear in this is important—she’s also a Goddess of alleviating fears. So of course, it’ll be reflected in those who work with her.
Everything I’m doing mirrors the person I want to be. I’m so proud of myself for getting to this point. Let’s just keep going and see how it unfolds. I feel ready—on a holistic level—to do this and to hold myself in it.

So thank you so much for helping me facilitate this. Thank you.

Gloria

You’re super welcome. What are you taking away from today? And more specifically, what would you like to honor and commit to with yourself after this session?

Jade

I’ve taken away something really crucial today: the feeling of rest I seek—whether through failure or success—is actually found within my body. Connecting with my body made me feel more rested and at ease than I have in weeks of just sitting and doing nothing. There’s this realization that the more connected I am to my body, the more rest I feel—rather than numbing myself from the moment.

I can rest while doing the things I love, because this truly comes from a deep soul-level purpose. Working more with my body to bring that about—and also being with my emotions: fear, anger, sadness, grief. Allowing those emotions to exist in my business. In the sacred work I do.

If I say, Anger doesn’t belong in my business, then I’m shutting down a huge part of why my business exists in the first place. So it feels right to say: All emotions, all aspects of myself, are allowed in the space I hold for others. That gives them permission to be in their own fullness too.
I’m giving myself permission. I’m giving my business permission. And I’m giving others permission. That feels like a really beautiful process. That’s the main takeaway from today.

Gloria

I love this—100% honoring all parts and making space for them. The word rest—that’s the one I’d tell you to write in big letters somewhere around you. Because if you detach rest from success or failure and just see it as a primary need—to feel grounded, to feel good, to feel creative—then it becomes something you allow, no matter what. So now, How do I rest? How do I make space for that softer part we visited today?

Jade

I love that idea. I feel like I need to make a beautiful little piece of art to have around me—just to embody what rest feels like for me.

Gloria

Great. Thank you so much, Jade, for sharing.

Jade

Thank you. And thank you so much for holding the space—and for giving me the time to be here with you today. Thank you.

CONCLUSION

How was this episode for you? Have you ever done energy work? Have you ever experienced that kind of work? I’m curious to hear your feedback. As you can see, this was a bit different from the usual coaching sessions you might have heard, because I included other components. I decided to work on the body level with Jade, as we only had this one session together.

If I were to work with her as an ongoing client, I would also explore what she associates with failure and help her heal past experiences. Then, we’d look at what she associates with success and how to help her feel safe in it—essentially, rewiring that part of the brain, both on a mindset level and a body level.
For you, I invite you to do the same: write “failure” on one piece of paper, and “success” on another. What comes up for you immediately? Do you feel safer—though it might sound counterintuitive—in failure? How does success feel in your body?

When you dive into that somatic level, you begin to connect to the root of where change is really needed. Otherwise, if we keep the conversation purely mental, you might say, “Of course I want to be successful, and of course I want to avoid failure.” But what is your body saying? That’s the real answer, and that’s where we need to check if things are aligned, so you can walk the path toward success.

With Jade, I would also have worked on the spiritual level. She has a beautiful connection, guidance, and relationship with her Goddess. I would support her in feeling more than good enough to bring that work into the world and in honoring that very special connection and mission.
This gives you an idea of the different levels we could work on. In this session, I chose to focus on the body level. I didn’t go too much into the brain’s associations between failure and success or into all the fears that can come up.

To wrap up today’s episode, I invite you to explore your own imagination around failure and success. Reflect on your experiences with both. Do you need healing, acceptance, or grieving based on what those experiences were?

For some of you, maybe success doesn’t feel right because it’s associated with consequences you no longer want. Or maybe it’s failure that feels safer.
I also mentioned Line 3 in Human Design—you can generate your Human Design profile for free online. Reframing your view of failure can be particularly important if you resonate with Line 3. It’s also relevant to Line 6—the last line in Human Design—because in the first phase of life, Line 6 lives through the experience of Line 3. So this might resonate with you, too.

Just something to reflect on. I’ll see you in the next episode.

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